Many marriages are fractured by betrayal. Those betrayals may involve:
· affairs
· financial mismanagement
· addictions
· petty lying
While the betrayer may feel badly about his/her actions, they often feel helpless to fix the damage. They can become paralyzed by their own shame and cope by refusing to the discuss the issue. The person betrayed may experience symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which include:
| · intense mood swings | · feeling out of control |
| · flashbacks | · constant triggers |
| · hypervigilance | · obsessing |
| · interrogating | · anxiety and panic |
| · uncontrollable crying | · irritability and aggression |
| · numbing | · depression |
| · despair |
When someone fractures their arm, they seek medical care to have the bone heal properly. If not, the bone will heal but the arm may not work properly. Fractures in relationships are no different than fractures in the body. While the marriage may appear to heal, often connection, trust and closeness are lost. The partners may struggle to regain trust and connection with poor results because they don’t know how to heal.
After several years of working with couples struggling to heal from betrayals in marriage, Dr. Brandt realized that there was a need to develop an action-based effective process to help create forgiveness in these relationships. The result is a 5-step process whereby the betrayer, with input from the betrayed, creates and implements a plan to earn forgiveness based on 5 specific researched-based criteria. People generally want to heal their marriages, they simply don’t know how. Dr. Brandt has developed a solution to this issue which allows trust to be rebuilt and connection to occur. Relationships may even become better than prior to the betrayal once the couple has undergone this process.
To set up an Initial Consultation, please contact us at (630) 290-3384 or drsarabrandtscheduling@gmail.com.
