Anger can cause problems for relationships in two primary ways: · Reactivity to anger can scare, intimidate or push away your partner · Fear of anger or conflict avoidance cause toxic situations to not be addressed or resolved Each of these reactions to anger can cause significant relational damage. Learning to manage anger or emotions around anger can make way for healthy and productive interactions to replace the negativity and fear.  |
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Managing Anger
For many people, anger can cause significant problems by damaging relationships, causing work problems or involvement with the law. Others develop dependence on alcohol, drugs, or other vices to deal with their anger.
Everyone gets angry, whether they show it or not. Examples of someone who may need help learning to manage their anger might experience the following: · Frequent outbursts · Screaming and yelling at others · Threatening others · Damaging property · Inability to blow off "little things" · Excessive alcohol use · Physical altercations |
Anger Avoidance
Others are on the other end of the anger spectrum. Imaging others anger or experiencing conflict causes distress and avoidance. This robs the person of the ability to set limits and address problems openly which can result in toxic situations and a breakdown of the relationship.
Different people have different comfort levels with anger and conflict. Examples of someone who might need help learning to be comfortable with anger and conflict include: · Doing whatever is needed to keep peace · Being willing to tolerate poor behavior from others · Fear of confrontation or tension · Inability to verbalize needs due to anxiety · Excessive worry about what others may think |
Clients seeking to address their anger issues can do so in a therapy or educational format. Dr. Brandt has developed a research-based curriculum which can be used in a class format or with therapy. |
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